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Love It/Don’t Love It: Fashion

We all have our own tastes in clothes. We all have our own look that expresses who we are. Some of us are fashionistas and can go with anything setting trends bring at us. But some of us may stop at certain looks while wearing something like a boss when it’s hot. This is a Love It/Don’t Love It list simply of my own point of view.

Growing up I wasn’t always concerned about fashion. I did at one point want to be a designer. Then after moving I decided not to. I don’t recall what made me want to be one anyway. I went through a list of things I wanted to be. I have interest in many subjects. Mostly I wanted to be an archaeologist. I still wish I could but alas I now write about Avon, makeup, and a bit of fashion. While working to becoming a dietician/personal trainer for the disabled/elderly/both. Still, I keep a bit up on fashion. I am no fashionista. When it comes to fashion I go for function first then fashion.

Today’s post is going to cover some trends that will be around this Fall 2019. But the first thing that came to mind when writing about fashions I like or don’t like, Uggs came to mind right off the bat. Why? Because I never understood them. They are purely for show and couldn’t hold up in very cold climates unless they were very well made for such temperatures. Still, let’s start with trends that will be popular or at least more noticeable this fall.

Love It

Dusty Orange/Dusty Pink

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This may shock you but even though I don’t wear a whole lot of either orange or pink, it’s not to say there’s a shade I will like and might incorporate into my look somehow. Dusty orange and dusty pink will be a few of the popular colors this fall. And honestly, I am just happy they aren’t as in your face as the more solid variants of either color. Given my skin tone, most of the time it doesn’t look good. But in small amount’s I’m fine with it. I do better with darker colors. And yet I can tan very dark and still prefer dark colors. I do where bright colors. Like maybe a green or purple. Though with dusty colors being on trend, I’ll be happy to sport them. They don’t hurt my eyes either. Also, both can be worn by most skin tones.

Florals

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Now, not everyone does florals. I in fact didn’t care for them for the longest time. They have grown on me. If done in a manner that isn’t gaudy, they can be rather nice to wear. It’s not just a pattern for furniture. You may want to take a look around to see what suits you. Maybe small blue floral print with a white background. Big floral print with a black background. Or perhaps the more thought of meshed together like you see in furniture. There’s a few different kinds of floral prints. Don’t knock it until you find something you like and wear it like a confident person you are.

Crochet

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Before you say anything, yes, many think of chunky sweater when they hear crochet. Stop right there. I happen to crochet and there are a lot of very gorgeous shirts and dresses that are crochet. If you like chunky then go chunky. If you want it more breathable, go that way too. Crochet is a time-old way of dressing. You don’t need to look like you are wearing am afghan, okay? There are amazing patterns and stitches that can create a crochet shirt or dress into something not so granny looking. I used to own a crocheted ugly sweater. I wish I still had it. But there’s more than just that image you get in your head hearing crochet.

Scarf/Fine Print

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For those of you not familiar with the description, scarf print and fine print are much more delicate in detail. Some can look a bit much and others are down right nice and it’s not just when wearing a scarf. You can take the look to larger pieces like a dress or shirt. I find that much of the fall trends lean to a mature + cozy look. And I like that. That’s what fall feels like to me anyway. When I was younger I thought these types of prints were reserved for women roughly in their 50’s or some sort of elegant heiress. Now, being near 40, I don’t mind the prints and like to get them in skirts.

Hair Accessories

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This fall, a fashion trend that will be all around us will not be found in clothes but in the hair. while I can only manage to get away with a few items in my hair, using many doesn’t seem to suit me like those who can pull of some crazy beautiful designs with bobby pins. I also heard big hair accessories will be popular as well. Again, while I can’t pull it off, I love seeing how great others look with hair accessories.

Don’t Love It

Coral and Neon

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I like coral just not in clothes. I can’t get past it. Something about it hurts my eyes. My beloved grandmother (RIP) would stand up for the color. It was want of the colors, along with salmon, that she liked. She used it in all of her crafts. That was fine. I just never liked it in clothes. Maybe it’s because colors like that don’t go with my skin tone. And neon I swear makes my eyes melt. But it is great for making cars stop when you need to cross the street. I do have a bright pink work out shirt. One day while walking down town, I had taken my sweater off because it had gotten warm suddenly. Up until that point it seems drivers didn’t see me. BAM! Hey, look. I’m wearing neon pink. Oh, you’re going to stop now and notice I need to cross? About time. But I still don’t care for neon colors. Since child hood I would avoid them. If you like it, that’s fine. But bees seem to also like me in neon. No thank you.

Western Trends

I am probably going to get grief for this. And given I grew up in the Rockies you think I wouldn’t mind so much. I don’t. But there is some really tacky ways of wearing western wear. Take for example this kid I knew in middle school. All out cowboy in his own right. He did raise horses. But for the love of Mike he had this shirt that was turquois and in western fashion that I did not like. Besides his pants and boots and hat, I hated that shirt. And the belts! Why with belts? If this is going to be a fall trend please don’t make it in bright colors. I feel like it’s a scene from Back to the Future. Pink western wear? I can see why it would look odd. Now if you like it, by all means. I’m sure you can pull it off. I like the more traditional look. Plain colors and simple attire. But most of the time people just add fringe, yes fringe is still big, and call it western. No. not all western wear is fringe. I know I will get so much grief for this because I know a lot of people, mostly ladies, who wear western wear with a pink or purple. Or blue. And they do just fine. But now it’s like snake boots with an otherwise street style. Can I ask why? I think I suddenly need to watch The Cowboy Way again. Or maybe Monte Walsh. Now Tom Selleck can really pull of western wear. I admit I find that man attractive. But he’s twice my age! Older than my dad even. Even off set he has this way of incorporating a western look without using colors I prefer not to see in western wear.

Wild Prints

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Again, I know I will get flack for this. I don’t like wild prints. I can’t begin to express how odd it looks. I can’t find much a way to see it in a trendy way. Even with a pair of wild print jeans I bought my daughter because finding pants that fit her and her colostomy bag is very hard considering she’s growing and the waist is the biggest issues, I still try to not have her wear them. I find wild prints hard tp pair with any other print. Maybe a solid color. But I know people have mixed them before. It just looks cluttered that way. I known not everyone will agree, and that’s fine. I think the closest thing I ever wore was wild print undies. But no one saw those so I am fine with them. But like with the bra, well you think large sizes are hard to find, so are small ones. Sometimes I end up with a print I don’t like but I just need some under garments.

The 70’s

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Now, I was raised with a lot of 1970’s surrounding me and then it went into the 80’s. I wasn’t born in the 70’s but my brother was. Luckily we never had to wear anything that resembled the 70’s. I have seen some tastefully done looks but I still wouldn’t wear it. Maybe except for bouffants. I like those. That’s hair so it’s not clothes. One time when I was maybe 10 I was reading a kids magazine. I don’t remember which and I saw this ad, no I don’t remember which, and it had a kid in full 70’s attire. The first thing I noticed was the bell bottoms. I don’t mind flares. But bell bottoms just shorten legs. Unless you want to look short, then I guess that’s fine. But I just never liked anything about 70’s clothes. Though when I was young some people still wore it and it had it’s surge in being brought back for a short time in the 90’s. I guess If I was sent back in time I would have a hard time trying to fit in. But I could go for anything from the 1920’s to the 1940’s. Sorry Mom and Dad.

So, that is my list. Love or don’t love it, it’s all about individuality. You love what I don’t that’s fine or maybe the other way around. That’s fine too. What are some trends in fashion now, then, upcoming that you either love or don’t love?

Love it/Don’t Love it: Makeup

Many of us have our own tastes. Some of us like certain trends, and others not so much. Not everyone will agree but that’s completely fine. Here I want to share makeup trends that I either don’t like or like. I wouldn’t say hate because it’s a strong word. Some of these are from this year and others are ones that have been with us a while.

Love It

Winged Eyeliner

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Though I have never fully mastered the winged look, it is a trend that has stemmed over centuries. From ancient Egypt to now. Some are really great at it while for me, I need that makeup tape as a guide. See I have this tiny itty bitty fold at the corners of my eyes and also that fold sort of slants down. So I have to use tape and fake not having this tiny fold. I can’t seem to find anyone that has this fold online and if there is someone, please tell me who they are and if they have tips. generally I just do a simple line top and bottom. But winged looks take more effort for me. I love the look. It adds so much depth to the eye.

Bold Lips

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Not everyone can pull a bold lip with the same color. Just this year I tried Poppy Pink in Avon’s Moisturizing Lipstick. This past spring bright lips were in and I usually don’t go for anything bright. I end up laughing at myself. Even one of the brighter shades of lilac made be giggle. It didn’t go well with my skin tone. But it looked great on another customer who loves purple. Bold lips are great especially if the color looks fabulous on you. Sometimes you can shock yourself because you may not wear a lot of bright colors, but there’s that one that just seems to fit you.

Bronze Skin

There was a time where bronze skin was looked down upon and in fact many countries still use skin lighteners. But it wasn’t until Coco Chenelle came back from a vacation and sported tanned skin that it really took hold. Since then we have have created countless ways of getting it. Tons of products. Some of us need more help than others. All I ask is that you not use a tanning bed. Stop. Right now. Just one use, especially the younger you are dramatically increases your chance of skin cancer. If you can’t take the heat well, like me and I used to be a big time sun baby growing up, use sunless tanning. But at least get some vitamin D in after the days hottest point so that you aren’t inflicting unseen damage. So many people have low Vit D and getting sun helps.

Bare Skin

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Wait? bare skin? Do I mean no makeup or less attire? Well makeup wise you don’t always need to contour. Sometimes just adding a tinted moisturizer before adding eyeliner. I still using setting spray with mine. I use Magix by Avon in light/medium. There’s six shades. You can mix them as well if you need something in between. I like my shade currently because it added enough tint that I feel like I tanned without using bronzer. You don’t always need to contour and sometimes when your busy a bare faced look is a great way to go.

Liquid Shadows

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Earlier this year Avon sold a line of liquid eyeshadows that were such a hit. I did do a review of it called Glimmer + Shine: 8 New Colorful & Amazing Avon Glimmer Shadows. They were such a hit we sold out and currently are waiting for more to be in stock. I like liquid ones because they just add more color to your eyes. And if you are doing regular powder shadow and want to add some sparkle to the middle of your eyes, you can do that, too.

Don’t Love It

Pencil Brows

At this point of the article I want to note there are less pictures. Mostly because I couldn’t find many suitable within my budget for the blog.

Now, a nicely done pencil brow is worth the look. But so many just do them thin in ways that are not becoming of the face. thin McDonalds arches, thin but a bit too high above the eye, thin but too short, thin but far too long. If don right depending on the face and sometimes the age of the person, they can look great. I have what I can only describe as thick to start and then sparse as they go away from the face. It makes having a clean look hard to accomplish without primping. I do actually have to work at the top. They say not to and this is good advice. But you will see eyebrow hairs go up into my forehead in a sporadic manner and also go onto my lids. So, I do have to clean up a lot. I like to have a soft arch above my eye but also have a mid-level thicker start to my eyebrows towards the nose. They do tend to grow thick at the bottom. I feel like it almost overshadows my lid. But I have rarely over plucked and given myself a pencil brow. We all know how much work it takes to grow them back in properly. Thick eyebrows can be great as well. It is a popular trend as of late. The thick and slightly messy brow. But I prefer to keep mine cleanup up. Just not to the point that I almost have no brows. Also, please don’t do those stubby short brows. It just looks silly.

Overlined lips

I get it. People want big lips. Guess what? my upper lip is thin and slightly off center and even when I attempted to overdraw a bit, it looked unnatural. In fact it’s best if I go just within the line. Especially given the fact my lip line is blurry. And a bit wonky. I’ll have to do a close up sometime both with and without makeup on. I have still yet to make sure it doesn’t look odd. As for making my upper lip look bigger, well, there is contouring your lips. It helps a bit. But using a shiny lip gloss up top has given the effect of a thicker lip when I don’t have one. You can do Botox if you want. I recommend not doing that though. It is not just the side effects, but the history of how Botox came into being is actually disgusting. Here is an article/podcast titled The Rotten, Sausagey Secret Origin of Botox from one of my favorite StuffYouShouldKnow channels called Ridiculous History. I should warn you it may not be advisable to eat while reading or listening to the content.

I went way off from talking about overlined lips.

Strobing

Now, it isn’t as much of fad as it was in 2015. But its still done with shimmery highlighter at the cheekbones. Some people I have seen can pull it off. Mostly with those of fair skinned nature or people with less oily complexions. I have combination oily skin. I prefer a matte look. I don’t care for strobing where its all the higher points of the face. I feel like people are turning themselves into human versions of a lighthouse. Now with people doing it just above the cheekbones and to the side, I can stand it a bit more. It’s not as in your face. Again, I have noticed fair skin seems to look better with it. Though I am still not a fan.

Glitter

Glitter is cute one preteens and kids. But it’s not good if you ingest it or get it in your eye. It can cause damage. It’s not good for the environment. And I don’t understand the effect one is attempting to achieve. And it’s hard to get rid of. My daughter once had one spec of glitter on her scalp for months. It wouldn’t come off. If you do it, sparingly is key.

Box Coloring

I don’t mean hair color. I mean making boxy colors with eye shadow. I know it’s more edgy and perhaps Avant Garde. But unless you have an eye shape that’s perfect for it to not look like you stepped off of a sci-to film, I wont understand why it should be done. It will be a popular trend this fall. So, more people will be wearing it.

Extra: Glopping

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I want to say I love this picture. It’s artistic. I mostly used it just to show how I see people using products to drip on their face in videos. But I lile this picture.

Now I am not alone in this. I call it glopping. Where a person in a video wants to show how a product looks on the skin by letting it drip down their face. This isn’t a makeup trend, thank goodness for that unless its cosplay of some sort. It is part of product videos that many YouTubers or Instagramers use to give effect to a product. I don’t think, unless you have really dry skin, that its necessary. For many it leaves the skin feeling heavy with product. Especially if you put on other products. I prefer feeling like I am not wearing anything and don’t need to wash anything off immediately.

This is my Love It/Hate It list for makeup. Do you agree with anything on the list? Either way tell me in the comments and if there is anything you aren’t a fan of, let me know. I may just agree with you.

5 Things I have learned About Makeup

I was young when I started using makeup. But I didn’t use a whole lot. I only used eyeliner. I have a condition called trichotillomania. It’s a condition where a person pulls out their hair. It’s uncontrollable and generally starts in puberty. Something I learned it that when not addressed early enough, it is rather hard to stop. I won’t go into it but it once of the reasons I wear eyeliner to this day. I do still have trichotillomania. I was never treated early enough. It began when I was 13. I began wearing eyeliner, even to bed because I was that self conscious about it, at age 15. For a long while I wore it every day. Now, I don’t wear it every day. Some days I may not wear it when I go out. Like to take our garbage or check the mail. But I do wear it if I have to go somewhere. Sometimes that’s the only thing I put on. It’s rare to catch me without it on outside of the house. Or in a picture.

I started to sparingly wear makeup in my last year of high school. My step dad has an amazing eye for colors and so he helped pick them out. He is even really good at picking out something someone would like. It’s not common in all guys. I started with neutral colors maybe a bit of pink. I didn’t start to really know how to put makeup on though until just a few years ago. I am almost 40. It took me that long. But in the short 10-ish years I have started using makeup, there are at least 5 things worth mentioning in what i have learned.

Start Small

You don’t need to go all out when you first wear makeup. I think that’s what most tweens do when they experiment. Or even little girls do and even some boys. Many makeup artists are male so don’t get too upset if your little boy does this. He may grow up to be a famous makeup artist to the celebrities. Start with tinted lip glosses. Avon sells Dew Kiss Lip Dew. It adds just a tint of color to your lips. I started using that at 15 as well. Mostly to keep my lips soft but I liked the color it added. It is a long time favorite for many. Maybe do some eye liner and mascara but no eyeshadow, Keep it simple. Watch videos or ask friends and family their techniques for applying makeup. You can practice at home even if you aren’t going anywhere and since you can take a selfie now, use that to see how you like it.

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Don’t Do It for Others, Do It for You

One of the many things I think girls and women may feel is that they should do it for others. Yes, some men and women are shallow and will base how you look on how they treat you and how they say others will treat you. The fact of the matter is, do it for yourself. Especially if someone finds out there may be a deep meaning as to why you do it. Such as people with noticeable scars or birthmarks or skin conditions you want to mask. I say let your real you come out but if you really want to hide it, that is your choice. Not others and if they find out what you look like without makeup and chastise you for it, well they aren’t a great person to be around to begin with. Makeup should be something to enhance how you feel about yourself. Yes, many celebs do it for appearances sake. But that’s the message we get and sometimes for the wrong reason. They have to represent a brand that isn’t everyone. Make your own personal brand. The more authentic, the more real you are being about it. And you don’t need to wear makeup each time you walk out the door. Some women fear too much about being seen with no makeup. Relax. You are human.

Don’t Overdo It

It may come as a contradiction from the previous lesson I mentioned. You don’t need to do a whole lot sometimes. Yes, the no makeup makeup look does take more effort than most people think, but at the same token you don’t need so much makeup it looks like you could leave a dent just by touching it. You don’t need overly bright colors if it takes away from another feature. Smokey eye looks can go horribly wrong. I saw a girl back in high school with what would be a good example of racoon eyes. I tried hard not to look for too long. I am sure she was trying to do an emo look but even the way she did it was a bit too much. The rest of her looked fine.

Take a Break

Just as I said in my 5 Things I Learned About Skin Care (previous post), it’s fine to take a break from wearing makeup. Let your skin be skin. Someone sees you without makeup, oh well. It’s your day off from makeup. It isn’t a must just to be seen. Any non-shallow person will not judge you for being without makeup. Even today, I am not wearing any. I’m writing.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Not all of use are great at applying makeup. So practice is a must. I still can’t do some eyeliner lines without using that tape as a guide. I hate the tape. It bugs my face, but it helps. Getting it right takes practice. Contouring takes work. You have to blend so much and know where to highlight and where to contour for you face shape. What parts you want to accentuate? Sometimes though there’s a feature you want to even out and even some guides wont be helpful. If you are able to ask a professional about it then that helps too. I took stage class in high school for one year. We learned not just about the types of theatres plays were done in in history and other theatre history as well, we learned about plays and, stage setup and even using stage makeup. It was then that I knew why the news lady on tv had such a highlight on her nose. It was to bring out her nose as a feature. In stage, contouring helps with what image you want to set for your character. Along with lighting. If your playing an elderly person, it’s not just using a nose prosthetic, but also the way makeup is used to give the idea you are older than you are. And that type of technique takes practice. It’s the same with everyday makeup. I get told a lot that I look like I’m 20. This is without makeup on. It doesn’t help I have a lean build and am short and have no chest. But my face apparently looks young. So, with makeup I use techniques to make myself appear older. But it takes practice to get it right when you are learning. Also, I am actually closer to 40. Yes, I know. Take it as a compliment. But that’s hard when you get treated like you don’t know anything and couldn’t possibly have three kids much less one who is 16. Tell me I look 20 years younger in ten years.

What are somethings you have learned about makeup? Share in the comments.

5 THINGS I HAVE LEARNED ABOUT SKIN CARE

I wanted to bring together my list of five things I have learned about skin care and makeup. Remember I am no professional. Simply an Avon Representative and regular female who started late in life when it came to knowing what I do know about makeup. Though I have been wearing eyeliner since I was 13 due to having trichotillomania.

Start Early

Many people are taught to give their babies gentle soaps and lotions to keep their skin healthy and soft. As we get older though, I have noticed not as many parents do this beyond the infant or toddler stage. They just make sure kids wash up. Not that this is a bad thing, but at least teaching kids about sunscreen and using a lotion on rougher areas will teach them that their skin is on big organ of the body. You try to teach them to eat healthy. Their skin should be included. I was watching Today on channel seven where I am at and they mentioned that people 18 and up have seen a rise in skin cancer. Mostly those tanning beds and it’s been touted for a long while that those things aren’t good. I have never used one. Plus, people aren’t always using sunscreen. When you are young and when your kids are young teach them to at least wear sunscreen and follow up with after sun care. Put what lotion is best for them on their skin. Just yesterday when the kids went swimming or playing in the water at grandmas house, I made sure they put on sunscreen. I used Avon Skin So Soft Bug Guard Plus with SPF 30. It is water resistant up to 80 minutes. Sometimes mosquitos are in an area simply because there is a pool or maybe a water puddle nearby. I let that sit in for 15 minutes. I used Anew Hydra Fusion Daily Beauty Defense with SPF 50. As for aftercare I use Hawaiian Tropic Silk Hydration. It has 24 Hours of Hydration. Plus the smell is wonderful.

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I have mentioned some great skin care products for regular skin care in my post titled 4 Skin Care Saviors + 1 Popular Brand.

Know That Your Skin Type Can Change

byr skin type is affected by so many things. Genetics and hormones are at the top. But what also causes your skin to be the way it is can be from medications and diet. I for one can personally say that since becoming vegan, my skin is less oily and I have less breakouts. But my back still has issues, thus why I use one of the products mentioned in the article I linked above: Panoxyl. I love it! Still, growing up I had oily skin. I had breakouts. I still have oily skin but now my face and even the skin on my shins has changed to being combination oily skin. So I treat it as such. Treat your skin to its type. Get to know products and what is in them as that has a major affect as to whether or not it will work. Take for example that for us oily skinned folk toners should not have alcohol in them. I like witch hazel with no alcohol by Thayers. My brother got me into using Witch Hazel when I was 15 when he was having really bad backne. It really is genetic for us at least. It was my brother that taught me this one thing about skin care for acne. Also, lotions should be oil free. There are some like Jojoba is said to mimic your natural oil production but I have found that it isn’t that way for me. But if it works for you that is awesome. Dry skin comes with large pores. Mostly. This is the case with my mother. In recent years I have noticed the dry spots on my face do in fact have large pores. You get large pores because your skin is trying to create more oil so it dilates. Here is an article that I like that talks about skin types and how they can change do to a variety of factors called.Your skin type is affected by so many things. Genetics and hormones are at the top. But what also causes your skin to be the way it is can be from medications and diet. I for one can personally say that since becoming vegan, my skin is less oily and I have less breakouts. But my back still has issues, thus why I use one of the products mentioned in the article I linked above: Panoxyl. I love it! Still, growing up I had oily skin. I had breakouts. I still have oily skin but now my face and even the skin on my shins has changed to being combination oily skin. So I treat it as such. Treat your skin to its type. Get to know products and what is in them as that has a major affect as to whether or not it will work. Take for example that for us oily skinned folk toners should not have alcohol in them. I like witch hazel with no alcohol by Thayers. My brother got me into using Witch Hazel when I was 15 when he was having really bad backne. It really is genetic for us at least. It was my brother that taught me this one thing about skin care for acne. Also, lotions should be oil free. There are some like Jojoba is said to mimic your natural oil production but I have found that it isn’t that way for me. But if it works for you that is awesome. Dry skin comes with large pores. Mostly. This is the case with my mother. In recent years I have noticed the dry spots on my face do in fact have large pores. You get large pores because your skin is trying to create more oil so it dilates. Here is an article that I like that talks about skin types and how they can change do to a variety of factors called Does Your Skin Type Change As You Age?

You Skipped A Wash

Granted that skin needs daily care but if you miss a wash because you got busy, as long as it isn’t when you pass out with makeup on, you will be fine. The only time I got upset with missing a wash was when I was pregnant with my middle child and due to hormones, I needed to wash my face A LOT. I even had to shave daily. It was horrible. But now, I do occasionally miss a wash in the morning. Not so much at night. The thought of the days oils on my pillow, though it gets dirty with use regardless, just grosses me out. But if you are on a strict regimen due to prescription, it would be best to keep up at it as best you can. Sometimes we get busy. Just wash when you can twice a day. Plus, as recommended by Refinery, it’s okay to break a routine. In fact it could be beneficial. Let the skin be skin.

See a Doc If Something Is Very Bad

The two times I have had to see a doctor for a skin issue is this one time I had a really hard and tiny black pimple-like thing on my arm that hurt. I am still unsure what it was but had to have it removed. I missed work for it though I would have been fine to work. It was just I worked in food so they take stuff like that serious. The other time is when I got a cyst. I have noticed I am having them more frequently and it is noted that some people just get them. I had one in my armpit. The best I could think is maybe I nicked myself shaving and now use an electric shaver. I had it for about a week. I did see a doc on the third day and was prescribed meds. Now, not that I am advocating this, but it did work, I used the old heated bottle trick to bring it to the surface and drain naturally. It did work. I did it for a few days and even did soaks using a special bottle I keep for such needs because it isn’t easy doing an effective compress on your armpit. The rag got cold far too quickly. So I used salted water in a bottle necked bottle and kind of laid down. I was still taking my meds. I did wear something comfortable though because it hurt putting my arm down. And I had to wear very loose shirts. But things like this need medical attention as you may never know if there is a more serious cause. It can really play havoc on the skin. You don’t want an infection to spread either. Please don’t be like guys I have dated a use a blade to dig it out. Dude, just no. And it’s gross and unsanitary.

Exfoliate

You wash. Sure but do you exfoliate? When you are wanting to make sure all parts of your skin look even and to have makeup go on better or even use sunless tanning lotions, its best to exfoliate. Some people get skin build up and even though they wash, it still shows because it makes the skin look darker and a bit dirty. My daughter gets it on her chest. I can tell if she didn’t exfoliate because it’s dark in spots. You would be amazed at how much it helps everywhere on the body. Lotions and makeup just work better on clean exfoliated skin.

What are things you have learned about taking care of your skin? Let me know in the comments below.

5 Difficult & Genuine LIFE-CHANGING EXPERIENCES I HAVE HAD

I have meant to write each day until the 11th of next month. Just to get more posts on my site and to then afterward only post a few times a month since I will be very busy with college. For the past several days I have suffered a migraine and have been in bed. Today, I am doing much better and need to catch up. My goal is to have a significant amount of reading material for everyone. A mi of Avon, makeup, beauty, and I would love to tart adding in woman who made their mark in the beauty industry as well as some posts on inspiration. We all need that. My blog/website is primarily about Avon but I can’t always write about that. I would run out of topics that weren’t about products and reviews. Speaking of reviews, I should be able to have a fresh one for everyone sometime at the beginning of next month. I would like to cover lip tattoos and a new set of lip gloss coming out in a few campaigns.

Life is meant to have moments that shape you. The make you who you are now and we are always being molded either by choice or not. But it’s the ones that we don’t have control over that can have a deep impact on our lives. Each person has their own experiences. But that doesn’t keep us from being able to share and understand each other. Or even to say, “I’ve been there.” Our life-changing experiences we do hope to use to help others who may be somewhere you have been or somewhere you hope they may never have to go.

Today I want to share 5 life-changing experiences I have had that shaped who I am today. While not feeling well I was able to brain storm a few things. Now, much of the time the small happenings in life are what impact us the most. This post has some of that as well as more major events. I hope to hear from people about any events in their lives that changed them for better or worse. Mine go over the better outcomes. I do have a few that changed me for worse but I would like to keep on the bright side for now. I would like to pre-apologize for any family that reads this. I do mention a few things from that past and hope not to offend. After all, I do share this site with family.

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The Aftermath of My Parent’s Divorce

I was very young when my parent’s broke up. I don’t remember much before the age of . . . six I believe. And even now a few things are fading in my memory. I was about one year of age when they broke up. I wont go into why. That’s far too personal. But at around age four my parents argued over me. It lasted for many years. It’s not something any child should go through. So much happened. I moved a lot. I saw and heard things I vowed to not have my kids experience. I recall this one day saying that someday I would learn the whole story. I was very young and I knew I knew nothing of the whole story but I knew it was being kept from me. The way this changed my life has both good ad bad consequences. The bad was that I was scarred by it all and later on I would learn in anger management class, yes I have taken anger management under my own will not by court order, that I was unknowingly making choices about the men I would later marry that weren’t good choices. The marriages were abusive, not so much physically but I think they could have ended up that way. I wasn’t given a good example of how parents should interact. I don’t know how my parents were when they were married. The stories I have heard but its a different experience to actually remember it. I do know how they after after divorce. It lead to my choices later on and also lead to the result of those choices as well. As a parent now I did keep to my promise of how my kids would experience the aftermath of my two divorces. It’s not perfect by any means. My childrens experiences are far different than my own but they wont be affected the ay I was. At least I hope. I also have learned how far it affected my life and what that all meant and how I can change the pattern. It’s not something one recovers from easily. The good result was at a very young age I had an idea of how to not model how I interact with my exes in front of my kids. I do try my best to not say things I shouldn’t. It’s shocking the things you take in as a child that you remember telling yourself to remember and then actually doing it. It rarely happens I think to be that aware of being aware as a child because many things are on a subconcious level.

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Being Told to “Let it Be” During a Camping Trip

Oh, the significance of a camping trip. Fun memories, interacting with family (or friends but I haven’t had that luxury) and being in nature away from society.

It has been years since I have gone camping. Since before I had kids so roughly over 17 years. Out of all the camping trips I remember, it was one of the last ones I had that left a lesson to be learned.

My dad was at the very beginning of a new relationship after his second divorce. I am not sure but I think it was maybe the second year into his relationship and I was camping with him, my now former step mother, I think my brother was there, and my aunt and uncle. Many kids don’t take to having a new woman in their parents life. Or man, but actually I took rather well to my second step-father. But the experiences of my father’s second divorce affected me a lot. I went from living with my father to living with my mother. They lived in separate states. I visited my dad in the summer every year until freshman year I think. At this point I was in middle school. I knew who the new woman he was dating was. In fact it was during my father’s divorce that I met her. They had known each other for many years. But I wasn’t wanting a new step mom, a second one, at this point. I had just lived with my mom then (again) for a year and I was still processing what had happened the year before. Another life-changing event I actually don’t cover in this post. I was feeing a bit angry and said something to my uncle who turned to me and said, “You may not like who your dad is with. But he is happy. You need to learn to accept that and just get on with it.” Now I am technically paraphrasing. I don’t remember the actual wording. But it stuck with me that I can’t make my parents choices whether I like them or not. My brother and I both weren’t ready for a new person in the family but eventually after a few years we accepted it. And I take that with me now when it comes to just not letting other peoples choices I feel aren’t good get in the ay of my relationship with that person I more close to. It their life not mine. If they ask I will try to be honest but respectful. My uncle taught me that in one single sentence on a camping trip.

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Being Kicked Out

Moving a few years ahead into my life, I come to when I was kicked out. Now some may think, “Oh, wow I am so sorry.” Don’t be. I’m not really upset about it anymore. I don’t really have a reaction to it only that it prompted my having to grow up a tad faster as a result.

I was dating my now first ex husband. I did work but my dating him caused a riff between my mother and I and she didn’t like how I was being, she didn’t like him. One night after calling to say I wouldn’t be home, I was 19 at the time, I got a phone call the next morning on New Years Eve that I wasn’t allowed to be there anymore. I was homeless for a short time. Maybe two weeks. I stayed at a friends house. He has since passed on. While working and looking for a place. Which isn’t as easy as it seems when you have no rental history. What being kicked out taught me was that I had to et up very quickly and be an adult. I was 19 and honestly I should have been in college or something and already on my own. I had initially planned on being in college at this time. But I failed to follow my own plans and there I was. But I was far from having needed to grow up at this point. No. No, it would take until three years ago that I had to really experience even more and I can say right now I don’t think anyone can say there’s a point where you are all grown up and experienced. Some grow up early. Kids having to get a job at a young age to help their parents for what ever reason or maybe they have to take care of a sibling. Some people don’t grow up at all, I can name at least two who are now in their early forties that will NEVER grow up. And they are far from a Peter Pan version of not growing up. I watch coming of age stories and mine is not near like I see or read about. My dad would say he is just now growing up and he’s . . . over the hill. Love you dad.

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My Second Divorce and Surviving Abuse

My first marriage and first divorce didn’t affect me quite as much as the second time around. I really don’t want to go into detail but my second husband came off as charming to my former and naive self. I was just barely leaving one relationship and jumping into the fire with another never a good thing. Give yourself space, I am so serious. So, as someone in my family said, I don’t remember who, I was too close to the forest to see the trees. It, in my mind started out fine. But looking back I am horribly wrong. Red flags everywhere.

When I left my ex, I fled across state I had said I was going on vacation to visit family and had my kids and my cat with me. When all honesty I was leaving. So, my ex knew the city of which I went, therefore protecting myself from legal issue involving kids (take that very serious folks) but I never said exactly where I was. The first day was so hard. I cried uncontrollably. I practically wanted to go back because I was so scared. For a week after it was like being off meds and I had an itch I couldn’t scratch. I stayed with a friend for three months. My mind wasn’t at all in the right state for 9 months after I left. Then I lived in a hotel in another city. I did work. I had so much to deal with it wasn’t until an old friend said I wasn’t taking it seriously enough that I felt a bit angry and made my life so busy enough that no one can say I don’t take it seriously enough now. I was so scared of being in a shelter I lived in hotels for four months. My parents paid for a short stay once, my church helped for several. I bounced between one hotel that I was at for three months to three others for the other two months of the total five months. Then finally, even while working, I wasn’t able to stay at hotels. I HAD to go to a shelter. And it terrified me. before I ever did I did try looking for a place. But a mix of things made that impossible to accomplish.

The first shelter felt like a prison. You woke up at 5:30 AM every day even on the weekend. You had an hour and a half to get dressed and ready and be out of your doorless room for breakfast at 6:30. You weren’t allowed back in until 4PM. You had to be inspected and turn in phones that had to be turned off. Then you had to bathe and could relax a bit until dinner at 6. After that it was church services or being in the back yard. You weren’t allowed in your room until 7 when you had to get ready for the kids to go to bed and you did chores and had to be in bed by 8:30 unless you were working and in which case you still had to do chores at whatever time you got in and go straight to bed. At 7am we were effectively not allowed in the building but couldn’t leave until your morning chore was done. It didn’t matter what season you living there. It was every. Single. Day. On occasion if it was too hot, as in my experience, they would let you sit and hang out in the dining area but you were allowed to go back in your room. The kids could play outside in the play area. If you were awaiting a call they had to call the shelter and ask for you. Even for work. They had lunches for people but they weren’t very appetizing. I worked so I could just get the kids lunch after I left. Since I worked I did have daycare. On days I didn’t work I was trying to stay out of the heat.

The second shelter came right as I was about to have to leave the other. The other you were only allowed to stay for a month and then you would have to leave for a month and if you still needed a place to stay then you could come back It was so other people had a chance of having a bed to sleep on. The new shelter I only learned about through a lady that worked at a dollar store who had happened to have been previously homeless. I was on a wait list. I had to be in a different shelter to qualify. There were others shelter like this. But this one has a good rep. I got in just as my month at the then current shelter was up so I took up the opportunity to go the net day. I didn’t have to work so it was perfect timing. I was so happy to leave. There’s things at the old shelter I wont mention that made it feel like a prison I cried so much before being allowed to return each day at 4. The only thing I liked was the head manager. She was lovely. The rest of the staff was not nice.

I spent a year and a half at the second shelter. I paid rent. I did community service to help pay for half of my rent. I worked for a time until my daughters medical needs prompted me to have to quit the “9-5”. There I didn’t have horrid food made for me. I got to cook for myself which was great because my daughter has a specific diet. I didn’t have to be kicked out during the day I just had to note when I left and came back in. Even when taking out garbage. I had classes to take. It was here that I took anger management and learned so much. I recommend it to everyone. You will never know what issues you have that you aren’t aware of until you attend. I took it because at this point in the grieving process of my divorce, I was at the anger stage. And letting it out on people I care about. I also started getting counseling which I sought out myself after a bad anxiety attack. It was at this shelter I found help to get divorced at a reduced cost. The divorce took up until a few months before I got into my own apartment. I still keep in touch with the staff. They became such helpful people. A great support when I needed it the most. Gosh, this is long. While in saying all of this my homelessness and escape from abuse taught me that I can do it on my own. It’s hard. But I can do it.

I would write more but I think this is a decently lengthy post. In the end, how this brought me into Avon and this blog is that while being homeless I felt like makeup gave me a new start to who I was. I felt better about myself. It wasn’t until last year that I started to sell Avon, I had sold many years before but started selling again. I decided on the blog as a way to reach more people, meet other bloggers, and also hopefully monetize off of a website and making it easier to earn somewhat of a living as a single mom of three with one being 24-7 care.

What are some of the life-changing moments you have had? Share in the comments.

Get to Know Me!

I figured I should add more content than just about Avon. This is something I have meaning to do. I will admit, at the time I am writing this, that I am a noob blogger and should have planned out blogs a lot better. Now that I know more about blogs. Eventually I plan on writing a series on starting a blog. Yes, this is something can can be found in so many places on the internet but now that I look at it, many bloggers do this so they don’t leave anyone wondering how that did it. I want to note ahead of time that the links provided I am not an affiliate for and so I will not make any commission if you click on them.

Now, on to the subject of this post. Me. I am not one to go on about herself. At least I try not to. I feel if I do that it will be figuratively similar to the scene in The Breakfast Club where the Basket-case dumped out her purse in front of everyone. And the others were speechless and sort of picked at her things. Still, I found a list of questions asked of bloggers for their audience about who they are as a person. And since this is a beauty blog, most of the questions are about that general topic. On wards!

Let’s Play 20, No Wait, Thirty Questions

  • Is your hair naturally curly or straight?

It’s slightly wavy but mostly straight. It’s also fine and I have a lot of it.

  • Do you dye your hair at home or go to a salon?

I haven’t dyed my hair at home for a while. Not sure when the last time I did it was but I noticed I was starting to collect a lot of very fine silver hair. The real kind. Not those thick stiff white hairs. So, it’s really happening. Not many can see it but there is a pic of me where you can see it very well. I’ll have to share it some time. Other than that I have always done it at home and started when I was 15.

  • Do you have the same style everyday or switch it up?

Sigh. Well I am just a natural go-to kind of girl for a true messy bun. I don’t even brush right away in the morning and just pile it up and continue on with my morning. But if I have to go somewhere, it’s either down or in a high pony tail. The only time I really do my hair now is for pictures for the blog or for my videos on my Facebook business page.

  • How often do you change your nail polish?

I don’t wear nail polish. My nails are naturally oily and so it comes off far too easy. I do do them once in a while and am thinking of starting to do them on the regular. I noticed in my videos that my fingers are sorely plain.

  • Do you do at-home mani-pedi’s or go to the salon?

The last time I had a mani was back in high school. LOL And my mom did it. I got French tips.

  • Do you polish your toes in the winter or just the summer?

Last time I wear polish on my toes was over a year ago. I didn’t even attempt to take it off months later. I just let my toes nails grow out and I trimmed them. They have bumps and so it’s hard to really get them to look nice. Maybe I should invest in some nice acrylic toenails.

  • How long does it take for you to do your face?

That is a loaded question, my friend. It depends on if I planned it or not. Most of the time I do just eyeliner. I don’t like being seen without it since I have trichotillomania. Which is a hair pulling disorder. Luckily it’s just with the eyelashes. Though TBH I used to do it on my legs but that was 20 years ago. So, 3 mins there. Now if I have to go out and it’s not a big deal. I will do my eyebrows, eyeliner, sometimes my Avon Magix Tinted Moisturizer in Light/Med and use a translucent powder to seal. 5 mins for that. But for videos and pictures, I never times it but maybe 45 minutes to an hour because I tend to look up eye-shadow looks and follow steps to get that look.

  • Which do you do first, face or your eyes?

Eyes.

  • Do you collect makeup or just buy when you need it?

Used to be I bought it when I need it but I have now started to collect.

  • How often do you wear falsies?

Not as often as I would like. I buy mine at RedCherry. The ones I have are Penny 501 in Black.

  • Do you do a full face of makeup everyday?

Gosh no. LOL I have a very busy life so when I do I full face it’s planned out ahead of time.

  • Do you wear makeup at home and/or around family?

At home, only for the blog and videos. Around family, sometimes but mostly eyeliner.

  • Will you leave the house without makeup?

I have. But I prefer to wear at least eyeliner and sometimes I use my Brow Mascara because it’s quick and looks most natural than filling them in.

  • How many high end products do you own?

Oh, gosh. I was thinking about this last night. I would say 2. One is the Trophy Skin RejuvedermMD Microdermabrasion On-The-Go. Now I didn’t buy it, it was given to me. And also NeriumAD Age-Defying Treatment. Also, given to me. I don’t really use either of them bus sometimes I do.

  • Do you plan your OOTD every night or when you get dressed?

Every once in a while I plan. If there’s something big coming up. Though recently I have decided to start doing it because my middle child goes through clothes really fast and I do so much laundry because of that. I’m hoping to get a system going for everyone in the house. If it helps to decrease laundry and make clothes last longer between washes then I am call for it.

  • How often do you change your handbag?

Generally twice a year. I have one for summer and one for winter. I do have several bags and recently donated most of them. Sometimes I will pull out one that suits what might be going on on a particular day.

  • What is your wake up time and bedtime?

I have a mixed form of insomnia. Sometimes I can’t control it. The whole issue started about two or three years ago. But I am actively trying to make my bed time 8 PM and wake-up time 5 Am because this fall I will be returning to college after many many years and considering how transportation will be I have to plan accordingly.

  • Do you work out? If so, how often?

I need to get back into it as I do have back issues that cause severe spasms that leave me unable to breath deeply. I do recommend, as I will be starting it again soon, Ashley Conrad’s 21-Day Clutch Cut . The videos can be found in full on YouTube. The program will make you so sore and very few weights are required so it’s something you can do at home.

  • Left-handed or right-handed?

Left-handed for writing and right-handed for everything else.

  • What languages do you speak?

American English though I know a tiny bit of Spanish and am learning French. I am hoping to become a polyglot.

  • Do you have any pets? If so, how many?

One pet for now. He is a black cat named Ulysses Bynx. Named after the former Civil War General/Former President of the US and the cat from Hocus Pocus.

  • How often do you blog?

Not as often as I should but recently I have really gotten into updating this whole website. I hope to be more proactive.

  • Do you keep a list of products to try?

Sometimes.

  • How did you come up with your blog name?

I really don’t know. LOL

  • What camera do you use for your pictures?

My Android. It’s an LG but I forget what model.

  • How often do you clean?

My house? I have a daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, semi-annually, once a year (for the landlord inspections), and annually cleaning list. So… a lot.

  • Do you swear?

Yes. I try not to. And It’s not as bad as it could be.

  • What was your favorite subject in school?

English, art, and history.

  • What’s your sign?

Cancer.

  • What does your day look like?

Well, I hope to add more to the website. I did some cleaning today. I am waiting on a phone call but I am not banking on it just in case. I also need to get a hold of the college, pick up meds, attend an Avon meeting that’s held every two weeks and maybe I’ll get to put in some time to crochet and later watch more Supernatural so I can be caught up.

  • Why Did you start Avon?

I started Avon, again, because I am a stay at home single mom who takes care of two of my youngest. One is disabled and is 24/7 care. I missed having a paycheck and interacting with people.

  • Why did you start a blog/website?

I started because I figured it was a good way to get out to more people. The way Avon reps now market to people has changed a lot since the last time I was a rep. I am used to D2D and P2P. I still do P2P but people are wary of D2D because now it’s possible it’s not legit. I live in Idaho and now in order to do D2D you have to have an issues card and I am not sure how that would work for an Avon Rep.

That was a lot of questions. If you have any others, please leave them in the comments below!

It’s Hair-Ficial

I know I haven’t written in a while. I am horrible and feel like a hack. Today, instead of Avon, since I have been slow and busy with a few medical issues to which I needed to turn my attention to, I would like to focus a bit on beauty news. I want to make it clear that while I am an Avon rep, it doesn’t hurt to talk about other beauty stuff. I do want to add a section at some point about women in beauty. Be it a makeup artist or an early creator of some beauty product of years past.

Today, since this has been such a growing trend and I guess I am in shock, I would like to talk about the 90’s. I feel old now. I think of the 90’s and I was just a very young girl on the verge of growing up. I even recall the magazine I saw in the school library (which one is was I don’t recall) essentially showing what would be the last time one would see, until now, classic 90’s dress, hair, and makeup. It was a teen magazine. Caucasian girl with this big smile. bright pink lipstick. I think she had on one of those jean jackets with all the sparkle on it. Hair done up in a side ponytail a-top her head with a pink scarf like tie. I specifically remember thinking, “You wont see that again.” I think the year was … goodness gracious… let me think, 1995. So, roughly 24 years ago. It was reminiscent of the 80’s in a way though not as neon. I noticed a slight shift in how girls dressed. At the time Brandy was a big and so were those weird plastic jackets which she was seen wearing in at least one of her videos. Visor hats. Combat like boots with dresses. To be honest that’s a trend worth bringing back. You may not see me wear it since I now either dress like a woman in her mid-40’s who still wants to wear something a tad younger (take for example today I have ripped jeans, a tan shirt with a tiny pocket, and a white cardigan sweater and slippers) or with a style of classic chic. Nice jeans and a gorgeous blouse with shoes suitable for the office. But I work from home so who am I trying to impress? HAHA No, seriously, I wonder what happened to my wardrobe sometimes. At the same token I wouldn’t wear Jnco’s. Though I did wish I still had my crop top and a belly chain that I used to have. What happened to that anyway?

So, on with the topic I picked: HAIR. Now I was never good with my own hair. I just recently was able to French braid or Double Dutch braid my hair while having my head slightly over the edge of my bed. Curling my hair takes a stone age. BUT, I remember all the fun new gadgets of the 90’s that changed our hairstyles. Some came out a a bit earlier though. I remember hair crimping in the 80’s. In fact I think it was seen on Weird Science the other fay which I saw aired on BBC America. I did have a crimper growing up. My step-sister and I would have fun putting on faux makeup and do our hair and dress as usual kids did back then. If you keep up on celeb news, I don’t care too to be honest just because I don’t feel their personal lives are my business, you will know that Khloe Kardashian and Ariana Grande have been sported with crimped hair! Let the flow of followers crimping their hair begin.

Other hairstyles making a comeback are the high ponytail (though it has never really left but the exact style hasn’t been what would be seen in the 90’s such as a high curly ponytail) and so have scrunci’s. I love scrunci’s In fact I crocheted one the other day and gave it to my oldest daughter.

Barrett’s. Though I will say this, there were barrett’s in the 80’s but mostly with young children. In the 90’s it was more sleek and metallic. I think these should never go out of style as it adds element to the hair.

Hairsprayed hair. Now I never did this, not unless you include going to my grandma’s house as a child and on Sunday she would curl up my hair the night before and use an iron to give me that tightly curled bang and then Aqua spray my curled hair to a crunchy consistency.

Spiked pixie. I still think it’s a cute look though not for me. No, I look horrible with such short hair.

Side barretted Bangs with a short hair still, slightly puffed in the back using that bump thing that came out and flipping the ends. No I don’t really know what the look was called but I do remember Drew Barrymore wearing it a lot.

The Rachel. Who didn’t covet her hair? I had mine redone like hers last year but this year I am sporting a choppy bob. Less hair to deal with.

Mixed texture. bits of flat ironed hair with tight curls. Now, if I could ever feel confident in rocking that look I would. Then again I have gotten older and as said, I range between two looks.

What hairstyles have you seen coming back? From any era. Have you actually seen a girl take out a huge can of spray, flip her hair over and spray the backside and let it air dry only to flip it back over thus creating a look I never understood? Yes, yes, that was a thing. That and using picks in curl permed hair. Also a big 90’s thing. Curls! Share in the comments.